Wednesday, August 13, 2014

A Military Spouse's Opinion on Robin William's Death

Following the death of Robin Williams many people have made negative comments along the lines of "Many soldiers take there life every year and no one says a thing, one celebrity kills himself and the whole world loses their mind." This is my answer to that, from the military side.

 I understand your frustration. I wish more people would appreciate the pain that many military people suffer through. I wish they would understand the depression and hopelessness that many of these men and women feel. I wish that more people in this country would make us feel more like they care about us and what we do. However, your negativity about this tragedy does not help. And this IS an tragedy. Because this goes beyond someone being a celebrity or a civilian. This is only about a human life being lost. The end. Whoever they are, they have left behind those that love them. It doesn't matter that Robin Williams was known throughout the world. What matters is that he has left behind people who loved him desperately and now they are hurting. Why mock their pain just because you are frustrated by what others choose to do or not do? You should do nothing but feel sympathetic for the family he left behind. Pray for them, send them thoughts of comfort. Despite the fact that their family has been in the lime light, they still grieve just as anyone else does and they are grieving now. They deserve your respect during their struggle. Be the bigger people. Show the world the way that you wish they would behave when confronted with the death of our friends. Spread your love, not your hate.

This is said to be letter written by Zelda Williams. If you can't see them as normal human beings after reading this and feel their pain, then you just might not be human yourself.

"My family has always been private about our time spent together. It was our way of keeping one thing that was ours, with a man we shared with an entire world. But now that’s gone, and I feel stripped bare. My last day with him was his birthday, and I will be forever grateful that my brothers and I got to spend that time alone with him, sharing gifts and laughter. He was always warm, even in his darkest moments. While I’ll never, ever understand how he could be loved so deeply and not find it in his heart to stay, there’s minor comfort in knowing our grief and loss, in some small way, is shared with millions. It doesn’t help the pain, but at least it’s a burden countless others now know we carry, and so many have offered to help lighten the load. Thank you for that.
To those he touched who are sending kind words, know that one of his favorite things in the world was to make you all laugh. As for those who are sending negativity, know that some small, giggling part of him is sending a flock of pigeons to your house to poop on your car. Right after you’ve had it washed. After all, he loved to laugh too…
Dad was, is and always will be one of the kindest, most generous, gentlest souls I’ve ever known, and while there are few things I know for certain right now, one of them is that not just my world, but the entire world is forever a little darker, less colorful and less full of laughter in his absence. We’ll just have to work twice as hard to fill it back up again."

My heart aches for the family of this wonderful man. He brought a lot of light and laughter to this world that will be greatly missed. My prayers go out to all those mourning him. Know that he was loved even by those who weren't close to him. 

- Mia