Monday, September 5, 2011

Till Tonight Do Us Part

This world is one messed up place. It's a struggle just to keep your head above the water. Marriage has become something that doesn't mean a thing to people anymore and I find that devastating. Marriage is special and it's should be binding. These days, however, no one takes it serious. They get married and then as soon as some problem comes up in the relationship a divorce happens. They aren't willing to try to work it out. It's just easier to move onto the next relationship. That is heart breaking to me. People have no idea what they are missing out on.
A marriage isn't easy. Unfortunately, despite what the Disney stories say, you don't get married and then it's happily ever after. A marriage is a job, you gotta work at it. There are going to be disagreements and moments where you don't think you can stand the other person for another second. Mistakes will be made. Both partners are still just human after all. But that shouldn't give us any excuse to forget the vows we made and walk away. That's what boyfriends and girlfriends do, not husbands and wives. You have to compromise, talk things through, and work at making your lives harmonize as one. It's hard work but none of us can imagine the blessings to come if we do that.
I really don't understand this whole cheating thing either. The world is full of it. As a military spouse I see and hear about it all the time. It's hard to stay faithful when you don't feel like you're even married sometimes, but that is still no excuse for the disgusting act of cheating. It's just plain wrong, I don't care what the circumstance is. What I really don't get is why people cheat when they have their significant other right there with them. You see it in the tabloids every day. This celebrity cheated on this celebrity with this celebrity who cheated on this celebrity with this person who cheated on that person back in such and such time. It's pathetic. My husband has been gone for almost a whole year now and I haven't cheated. Ton's of military spouses wait faithfully every time their lover deploys. If we can survive when they are not right next to us every day, it should be a piece of cake when you do get to spend time with them daily. I've seen so many relationship crash and burn because someone was incapable of being faithful. It's sad and infuriating. Are we all just wild animals that can't control our urges?! Grow up people.